The Griswald-Ashers arrived in Newy, safe and sound.

We left before sunrise and arrived just before sunset.  Coffees were drunk, chips and lollies were eaten, bladders were extended. Children teased each other and were yelled at by parents*.  Seats were kicked and small people asked, “Are we there yet?” and “Why didn’t we catch a plane?” seventeen million times.

We answered, “Not yet” and “Because” seventeen million and one times.

Forget the Big Banana, the Giant Clam,  the Big Prawn and the Big Rock, they may be of passing interest to the novice traveller, but the Grisashers found the tourist spot to rival all others.  We found the place where Bogans are made.

And if that isn’t enough, it is also the home of the Worst Cafe in the Known World.  We toddled into town, saw the Worst Cafe in the Known World, and made a beeline for it.  It had a cute wraparound verandah, and the place was positively pumping when we arrived.  So we took our seats expectantly.

We soon noticed a pungent odour, a fragrant mix of stale urine and skanky four-day-old lettuce.  Of course we should have left right then, but: children.  Hungry children.  And not a golden arch in sight.

We soon saw why the joint was packed.  The local retirement village was having an outing.  That explained at least some of the urine smell.  I think patrons preferred to relieve themselves like Ruprect in their seats, because whilst we were there, two old dears got locked in the toilet.  The one and only waitress had to jimmy them free them with a butter knife.  Clearly it was safer to  just piss in your seat.

The remainder of the clientele were in the 18-25 age bracket, accompanied by their numerous offspring.  They were striking in their uniformity, in that all of the males had a style of haircut we used to call “tails” in the 80s,  and all of the women had tattoos of their partner’s names, in a florid script, on the nape of their necks.  The only distinguishing features were whether the tails were plaited or not, and the variation in name.  (None of the names had traditional spellings. So I guess it could be confusing.)

I was going to say something a bit rude about why a woman would want to have a tatt on the back of her neck of her mate’s name, perhaps as a form of  identification useful in the throes of passion, by said mate, from the rear vantage point.  But I won’t.

I took photos of the Worst Cafe in the Known World, as well as the swill we were served,  (and dutifully ate, mind you) but I just can’t post them.  I’ve had a fit of conscience, as the Worst Cafe is clearly identifiable.  And that’s really not very nice.

Plus a Bogan might punch me or Nath in the face.

And who knows what one of the men might do.

*Okay, not parents. Me.  I did the yelling.  But they were really shitting me. It was 7.04am.

Do you eat in crappy places on road trips?

Tell me your worst meal…

Tomorrow, we be the Griswalds, and we are going on a road trip.

By the time you are reading this, we will be far from home, hopefully on the other side of the Gold Coast, maybe somewhere around Byron Bay.

We have a fridge in the back and surfboards on the roof.  Miss Xtrailia 2013 has never looked so sporty.

We are travelling down South to a funeral, to say our goodbyes to a chick who lived and laughed like a boss.

So I don’t know when I’ll be posting.  If I can get wifi and a charged computer, I’ll tell you all about it.  Maybe on Thursday I will write you my words from the day.

But for now, think of us, rolling along, Willie Nelson in the background.

Last week, My Friend John called me to tell me that my friend, his wife, could be dying.  He said that things weren’t really going well, and that she might not pull through.  He also said that he might be wrong.  So I thought maybe he might be the boy who cried wolf.  I hoped he was.

I packed a bag, booked a flight and organised the kids, but with a sense of unreality.  My friend couldn’t die.  She was a machine.  She did chemo and chemo and chemo again, and she was always fine.  She killed cancer when it came up.  She engrafted stem cells.  She was a legend at this stuff.  There was no way some stupid little virus could kill her.

It wasn’t until I got in the car, with the wide open road stretching before me, that I knew it was true.  My friend of so long was dying, and there was not one single thing I could do.

All of a sudden it seemed vitally important to savour the world.  I drove with the windows down so I could feel the air and smell the world.  I had the music pumped with bops and pops that sang of happiness and light.  I tried to drink in all the sights of the land as I whizzed by.  Because I knew this was the last time for a while I would be able to see and hear and smell and feel and touch things properly, and clearly.  I knew what would come next.  Haze and fog and dull.

And the sad.  So much sad.

The sun started to set and it became imperative to get pictures, even as I sped along toward the thing I dreaded most, for this was the last day of the sun with Hayley in it.

And after a while the sun set.  And she was gone.

A little while ago my Mum got the kids some of those little mannequin-type things with all the joints, that artists use to do anatomically correct drawings.  I’m not sure a six and nine year old are quite ready for anatomically correct anything yet, but there they sit, on the desks, and at the ready, should the need arise.  For anatomical correctness.

Over the last few days I guess I’ve been a bit preoccupied, what with trips down to Sydney to say goodbye to Hayley, and then back home to work, and organise our trip back down South for the funeral.  So the kids have been playing in their bedrooms a lot.   Sylvanian Familes, Puppy School, Musical Shows… You know, the usual harmless and innocent make-believe fun.

The latest game has been “Exercise Class” where one child uses the little wooden mannequin to create a pose, and the other child tries their best to mimic that pose.  Kind of like Twister for two, or, as I like to think, Children’s Pure Yoga.

This morning I went into Coco’s bedroom to find this on her desk:

Nothing like a bit of exercise…

So, yeah.  Nothing Suss here people.

Perhaps it’s time for “the talk”?

We have a cat. I hope the cat is wary.

Anything weird happen at your place this weekend?

Well.

It’s been quite a week around these parts.  Not the week I would ever have hoped for, but a week none-the-less.

Here’s my top five for the week:

1.  These lips.  Delivered with a cuddle from Sprinkles.  What a lovely thing to do.  Some people just have such big hearts.

Thanks Clare

2.  This wine.  QANTAS, you really are the best airline.  Teensy bottles of wine just when you need it most?  Yes please.

Entirely tolerable (and free) medicinal wine

3.  This family.  Some days are just gold with you lot.

They might be wearing nerdy helmets, but I love their guts.

4.  All my beautiful patients, who helped me through this week, with kind words and even kinder hearts.  I appreciate all the words of wisdom and care, and thank my teenage self for choosing such an wonderful career path- one that allows me to share so much of my life with loving and positive people.  I’m supposed to be helping them, yet they helped me.  What a gift.

5.  This chick.  I have no idea how the bits of my heart will ever feel whole again.

I’m so bloody lucky to have had her in my life.   What a smile.  What a laugh.

Love ya Hayls

How was your week?

Gimme some of your Top Hits.. I could use a laugh.

Today I didn’t really want to go to work.

My sad was so big I didn’t know if I could.

But I did, and I could, and I didn’t cry, and it was good.

A dear friend gave me these:

Thank you Sue

They didn’t do much for the sad, but they did remind me that even if my eyes can only see muted colours right now, there is still vibrant beauty in the world.  They reminded me that I have seen it before, and I will see it again.

And so I wait.